This is a massive question, asked by you:
"What are some of your biggest life lessons that helped you become who you are today?"
I love this question! So rich.
My mothers illness and death was huge for me. Before she died she was my world. We were very enmeshed. I used to always say if she ever died I wouldn't be able to live without her. So when she did pass I was floored. The world changed in that instant. It didn't feel safe anymore. I really didn't know how to do basic things like pay bills and organise my life. Her death created many obstacles that I had to figure out quickly, from organising a funeral to figuring out how to get a caveat off her property. It was a nightmare but it definitely taught me immense amounts about life.
Benj and I broke up a couple of times before we became serious, I had been in other relationships before but I had never felt heart break like I did after one of our break ups. Our time apart allowed me to really look at who I wanted to be in a relationship and who I wanted as a life partner. In retrospect that break up was the best thing for us. When we got back together we were ready.
Moving from Sydney to NZ and then back again. This was huge. I had struggled in Sydney to work and just as I got a break and found a great role Benj told me he wanted to move to NZ. I was anxious but excited. I got some incredible work and then poof in an instant we were moving back to Sydney. I left another amazing job and had no work for 6 months.. It was tough. I felt I had no purpose, but it was an incredible lesson. I have so much gratitude for my job and give it 1000% every day and am still working on my patience, that will take a little time.
The violent relationship. If you missed this article you can read it here this was a biggie. I learnt about forgiveness and boundaries. I also learnt that I and every other woman in the world deserves a gentle and respectful partner.
My family took me to court after my mum died. A lot of my friends still can't believe I forgave them. I did. It was tough and it took years but I feel so powerful because I chose forgiveness it doesn't mean I condone their behaviour. I don't. But I have compassion for their pain and the bad decisions they made.